Posts by Lady Lee

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Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)

by Wounded Heart in

used to be called multiple personality disorder (mpd).. i have it.

i was physically, emotionally, sexually abused.

the tramas in my life were so great that i split into many.

Lady Lee

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yes some of us therapists are normal people who really care about those who have been hurt. I choose to use my experience to help others. It is my way of turning something bad into something good. And it helps others along the way - a special gift.

I love my work. I love working with people.. And I think this work takes a love of both to be able to do for any length of time.

As for what's normal - I never knew. I didn't think what I had was normal when I was small. I recall wanting to run away when I was 8 and I didn't think that was normal. But then even the families around us weren't normal - we were just worse.

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Sexual Abuse of wives in the Borg

by Lady Lee in

and justly so.

when it came out, the elders and my mother chose to put me in foster care and keep the abuser in the home and congregation - supposedly to keep me safe.. i believed that at the time.

my step-father who had abused me was no longer around so it was "safe" for me to come home from the foster home (more than 500 km away).

Lady Lee

To all who have posted here and are victims of this type of abuse

I am considering starting an on-line discussion group for other victims of type of abuse. The forum would be open to ex-JW and active JW who need a safe place to discuss their experiences. The forum will be closed to the general public and will be by invitation only.

If this interests you please contact me at [email protected]

Lady Lee

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After 3 years the JWs are at my door

by Lady Lee in

who would have thunk?.

well two little old ladies came knocking at my door, watchtowers in hand and their little sheets of paper.. well i asked them point blank if they had seen the show and one of them had and proudly told me that she had not only seen it but taped it.

i suggested that the other go to watch it and she said she would.. gutsy little ladies i love them.

Lady Lee

So true Prisca

Anger would have driven them away. By showing that I cared they were extremely open and we found a common ground - the safety of the children

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After 3 years the JWs are at my door

by Lady Lee in

who would have thunk?.

well two little old ladies came knocking at my door, watchtowers in hand and their little sheets of paper.. well i asked them point blank if they had seen the show and one of them had and proudly told me that she had not only seen it but taped it.

i suggested that the other go to watch it and she said she would.. gutsy little ladies i love them.

Lady Lee

Thank you Jim

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Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)

by Wounded Heart in

used to be called multiple personality disorder (mpd).. i have it.

i was physically, emotionally, sexually abused.

the tramas in my life were so great that i split into many.

Lady Lee

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I've never tried to regain a lot of my memories unless they helped me put together a picture of my Life with Father
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Good for you. Contrary to what a lot of people seem to think regaining every single memory is not what it is all about. Getting enough memories to understand yourself and why you deal with problems in certain ways is the key to changing how you deal with things - or what you believe about certain things. As long as you are emotionally healthy and deal with life on those terms the regaining of memory is a useless waste of time. Perhaps not an idea shared by some therapists but the real goal of therapy is healthy functioning. If you are healthy then the therapy is not needed.

Although never a multiple I can relate to wanting to be average. I grew up feeling so different from everyone else (between the abuse and the JW who wouldn't). I did read your age in another thread - I will be the same in a couple of weeks. There is one thing I read that said most multiple grow out of it as they get older. This might support that theory of all are multiples and then integrate as they age. But my point here is that as we get older we do get wiser. We do learn from experience. We do learn to give up certain fights and live what is important.

I did a one-time group with all my MPD clients who wanted to participate to give them an opportunity to meet others like them. We had 9 bodies in the room and over 100 personalities. It was interesting and we had to set down some guidelines - only one could come out but they could all talk. Some found it wonderful. Some were a little overwhelmed. And well could not contain their others who kept popping out. In the end I think it helped everyone know they were not alone and gave them a glimpse of what I saw in them all - a wonderful collection of parts that needed to learn to work together.

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WT and sexual abuse - other issues

by Lady Lee in

you know this problem is a lot bigger than just going to the police.

that is a huge part of it but there are other pieces.. first the two witnesses rule is absurd.

if you don't recognize that then you are absurd.. secondly the gag order placed on victims is absurd.. ---- scenario----.

Lady Lee

Right on all counts waiting

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Thank you for the support

by Erica in

jw
friends

i can't find the words that would express how grateful i am for all the support, not only for all of you to back me on the dateline show but for my trial as well.

i don't think i would have had the courage to go through the trauma if it wasn't for all your prayers and encouragement.

dateline was a huge help for many and i know this because i have recieved quite a few calls, one from a current jdub who wants out for the safety of his 16 month old baby, i was so excited that he lifted the veil and saw it for the pure truth that it was.

Lady Lee

Erica

Thank you for coming here. And thank you for participating in the Dateline show. It took a lot of different emotions and strengths to take your abuser to court. it could not have been easy and I am sure there were many times you wanted to give up. I am so glad you didn't.

Your participation on Dateline helped me personally put another piece of my puzzle together. it has been 38 years since my case was swept under the rug and it has taken that long for this final piece to fall into place. Thank you for helping me find it.

Most importantly your participation in the Dateline show exposes the WT org and its treatment of victims of abuse. It exposes how the cases are mishandled and the victims blamed and the abusers set free to prey on other children. And it places a veil of secrecy on all who are in contact with the victim. Shis must stop.

Whether people stay in the Wt org or whether they leave - they need to know of this dispicable practice of placing reputations above people - children. This in my mind is one of the most un-Christ-like practices of the JWs.

Yesterday I had two JW ladies come to my door. I spoke with them about the Dateline show and let them know I knew it was true because it happened to me. They were thinking ladies and we had a wonderful discussion about the protection of the children and that these pedophiles are in the congregation saying prayers for them. They were both rightly horrified. The eyes of some in the congregation are opening. Hopefully this is a beginning of dealing with this in a proper way.

Thank you again for letting the world know about this issue.

Lee Marsh

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JW's Sell Kingdom Hall

by RR in

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a while back, i told of my wife going by our old kingdom hall and surprised to see an american flag hanging by the window.

i thought this was picture worthy news, and some of you agreed.. well it turns out the congregation sold the hall to a phillipino church.

1. they doing business with babylon.

Lady Lee

One of the KH I helped built was also sold to another church - forget which one but they didn't seem to mind taking that Satanic money

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After 3 years the JWs are at my door

by Lady Lee in

who would have thunk?.

well two little old ladies came knocking at my door, watchtowers in hand and their little sheets of paper.. well i asked them point blank if they had seen the show and one of them had and proudly told me that she had not only seen it but taped it.

i suggested that the other go to watch it and she said she would.. gutsy little ladies i love them.

Lady Lee

d wiltshire
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I wonder if they would ever use a real life experience like yours at their service meeting, in a part about how to handling molester objections
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think they might ask me in to do a part? I could leave more cards all over the place

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After 3 years the JWs are at my door

by Lady Lee in

who would have thunk?.

well two little old ladies came knocking at my door, watchtowers in hand and their little sheets of paper.. well i asked them point blank if they had seen the show and one of them had and proudly told me that she had not only seen it but taped it.

i suggested that the other go to watch it and she said she would.. gutsy little ladies i love them.

Lady Lee

I think it really helped that they were older. The forst lady who had taped the show told me about her past experience with the elders - along the lines of spousal abuse.(yes this folks is how I do it- get them to talk about themselves). She wants to believe in something and knows the elders are not perfect.

I am glad it was the two older ladies at my door because the next door had 2 young ladies. I think they might have run.

Funny cause it was me who suggested they go and find the other two to make sure they were OK.

I suspect the Dateline show only opened a door that was slightly ajar for the first lady. The second one was very concerned about the children. I suspect something more there but she didn't say and I based what I said on their desire to protect the children. Damn I was quoting scripture to them about Jesus telling us to protect the sheep and the children.

You know it felt good and I was definitely getting a lot of information that might have been missed but came across as wanting to make sure - like them - that the cong was a safe place for children.

I also let them know I believed they were good people and wanted to do the right thing -

Should be interesting to be a fly on the wall around them.

Scully taping them would have been grand but oh well.

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